Are You Haunted By NoFap Urges?
If you’re new to nofap, you’re probably having a hard time controlling your urges to watch porn, after all, you’ve been conditioned for years to fall for them.
That’s something haunting many men worldwide, and the same thing happened to me too. In fact, I can clearly remember the first time I was trying nofap, back in 2017.
In the beginning, things were pretty easy; in fact, I could prevent myself from watching porn and ejaculating for the first 2-3 days. However, as the days passed, my nofap urges got stronger and stronger until I couldn’t hold them anymore.
That’s when I brutally failed and relapsed into the old, unhealthy habit. However, I wanted to find a semi-permanent or permanent solution to my uncontrollable urges, and I did.
Today, I want to equip you with a set of practices that will help you control your sexual urges.
Now you might be thinking: “How is it possible to control such an amazing force as our sexual energy? What human on earth can even do that?”
It is possible, buddy, you just need to become more acquainted with some practices so that you can become more aware of how your body and mind function. When you know that, you’ll be in a better position to control such sexual urges.
What are these practices? It’s time to discover them below. Those practices will help you control your urge to watch porn when you’ll be in need as they will completely rewire your brain.
How To Control NoFap Urges
Practice #1: Meditation
The first thing I’d suggest you implement to control your urges is a simple meditation practice. I believe you should practice some kind of meditation every day, regardless of the fact that you practice nofap or not.
When you meditate, your brain slows down, allowing you to see things that you couldn’t see before.
In a more relaxed state, you’ll be able to better recognize the inner obstacles that are preventing you from succeeding with nofap. Those obstacles are usually automatic behavioral patterns and subconscious beliefs.
When you meditate from time to time, new awareness emerges because your brainwaves will go down from beta to alpha, a much more relaxed state where you can access your subconscious mind, observe your thoughts and patterns more easily.
The alpha state is what beginner meditation practitioners usually get to, and that’s already an excellent place to start reprogramming your urge to watch porn.
However, advanced practitioners can get to theta or even delta states of brainwaves where they can directly access their subconscious minds and reprogram them at will.
That’s something you’ll learn with practice. Once you’ll arrive to that level, controlling your sexual urges will seem a joke for you.
However, if you can get even to an alpha level state, you’ll get a deeper level of understanding of what obstacles are preventing you from succeeding with nofap.
You can begin meditating with a simple observation practice of your thoughts if you’re a beginner. I urge you try that one to experience its incredible benefits.
Practice #2: Pranayama
Another powerful practice you can use to control your nofap urges is the so-called “pranayama,” a word that refers to various breathing techniques used by yogis both in ancient and modern times.
Pranayama has many purposes; cleansing your system, moving the body lymph, relaxing your mind, oxygenating your body, and moving the energies around to cite a few.
Pranayama will also help you control your mind by managing your breath with specific patterns, depending on the kind of breathing you do and on the results you want to get.
There are many breathing patterns you can perform; Bhastrika, Kapalbhati, or Anulom Vilom. The most simple ones will usually work well to control your sexual urges.
Don’t worry if those words sound alien to you! You can learn more about pranayama practices, how to perform them, and their benefits here.
Practice #3: Sexual Transmutation
If you don’t want to engage in any breathing technique, you can try transmuting your sexual energy into a creative one. That’s one of the best ways to control your nofap urges and stop your addiction.
What? Are you serious?
I don’t know if somebody ever told you this, but sexual energy is the rawest, yet most potent form of energy any human being can make use of.
If you think about it, with the combined sexual energies of male and female bodies, life is created. However, what happens if you don’t waste this energy along with your semen on porn and unaware masturbation?
You could literally increase your mental faculties by unimaginable degrees by transmuting those energies. That’s what many historical geniuses like Nikola Tesla, Leonardo da Vinci, and other artists did.
Not only them.
Also, new celebrities like Mike Tyson admitted having abstained from sex for years to improve his fighting skills. Or Louis Armstrong stated that he never jerked off before he had to play his concerts.
This shows how you can also transmute this form of energy (sexual) into another, more refined form that will help you achieve your goals faster in life.
Yes, if you’ve never experienced things as perfect synchronicities, faster manifestation of your goals, and powerful alignment with your purpose.
That concept has also been expressed by Napoleon Hill in his book “Think & Grow Rich” as one of the fundamental practices that made some of the wealthiest people on the planet who they are.
Practice #4: Constructive Distraction
Another strategy I often use to control nofap urges is doing something constructive/productive as soon as I feel the need to release.
For instance, whenever I feel the pressure in my genital area, I dedicate myself to some activity that I absolutely love, like working out, dancing salsa, or writing.
This distracts my mind from the idea of releasing and prevents me from falling into temptation.
Another thing I do that works wonders is hanging out with friends or, even better, approaching women outside.
You know buddy, that real feel of female energy.
This activity not only makes me forget about my nofap urges, exactly like I forgot those boring high school classes, but improves my charisma, attractiveness, and likelihood of getting laid.
Thanks to nofap the intimate experience I enjoyed with women doubled in a single year, making it even easier for me to attract them. This happens because nofap causes a lot of improvements to your perceived attractiveness.
I can’t recommend enough a genuine dose of male-to-female interaction as, after all, if you have strong fapping urges is probably because what you really want is having real intimacy with a real woman.
Practice #5: Willpower Strengthening
Finally, the last thing you can do to control your sexual energy is to increase the strength of your willpower.
In fact, that’s precisely what you use to control your sexual urges and not only those. Managing emotions, thoughts, and any kind of craving requires the use of this mysterious force.
That’s the same force you use when pushing yourself to do something you don’t feel like doing. For example working out the first days after a long time of inactivity or going out of your house when you don’t feel like it.
Now the question arises naturally, exactly like the sexual desires you’re trying to control so badly.
How can you strengthen your willpower?
Scientific studies have shown that willpower is like a muscle. The more you exercise it, the stronger and more resilient it becomes, exactly like when you want to strengthen those pecs/abs of your muscles.
This means one thing.
You can consciously train your willpower every single day, and you can do this in two ways fundamentally:
- Resisting to do things you don’t have to do;
- Pushing yourself to do things you have to do.
In a few words, every time you feel like doing something, you shouldn’t do, you must control yourself (your urges in this case). You must literally force yourself from not doing the thing, provided that’s something that will harm you.
Simply put, don’t effin’ do what you shouldn’t do.
Conversely, you can exercise your willpower by pushing yourself to do things you need to do, or that will benefit you. Those things can be working out, eating well, socializing, getting things done, and telling the truth when it must be said.
You have to become stronger than the laziness preventing you from not facing the obstacles.
The more you’ll be able to control yourself, and the stronger your willpower will get, helping you control your addiction and urges. That will give you in return more power back in all the areas of your life since willpower can be applied everywhere.
How Can You Stop NoFap Urges?
What about stopping urges when they are too strong to control? Below are a couple solutions that might work well for you.
Tip #6: Get into the Flatline Stage
One counter-intuitive thing you can do to stop nofap urges is pushing yourself in your journey until you hit the so-called “flatline stage.”
Next time you feel the urge to watch porn, try to resist. Getting into the flatline stage is a better way to stop you from feeling the urge to release.
That stage is when your brain starts to rewire itself from its massive Porn, Masturbation, and Orgasm (PMO) overload.
During the flatline phase, you will not feel any sexual urges whatsoever or, if you feel them, they will be so weak that you’ll be able to control them with just a little willpower.
However, getting to the flatline stage is not an easy task for most people. That’s why you might consider hiring an accountability coach to give you enough momentum to hit the flatline.
That wouldn’t take more than a month of coaching usually, but this depends on how severe your urges are and on how you feel about it.
Tip #7: Contrast Showers
Finally, the old trick of taking cold showers might also stop your urges when they get too intense. If you feel like you need to release, do this:
- Start by doing a 5 minutes body warmup like when you prepare for a fight;
- Get into the shower with hot water already running;
- Let the hot water run for 2 minutes until you feel your body warming up,
- After the 2 minutes, switch the water to cold for 20 seconds;
- After that, switch it back to hot for another 10 seconds;
- Repeat this 20 seconds cold water-10 second hot water cycle for 5 minutes.
This practice will enormously strengthen your willpower, apart from giving your body amazing physiological and psychological benefits.
This happens because of the alternate vaso-dilatation and vaso-conscription of your arteries that will pump blood to every extremity of your body.
Always remember to start small as you don’t want to put too much stress on your nervous system. If, for any reason, you feel bad during the contrast showers, STOP IMMEDIATELY.
Important Note: Do not perform any breathing technique (pranayama) under the shower as you might faint from overventilation if things get out of your control.
For that reason I urge you start practicing contrast showers one step at the time, better if by getting help by somebody you know that is really knowledgeable about this practice.
Now you’re equipped with many practical ideas to control your sexual urges during your day. Some of those will work better on you, while others might necessarily not work well.
That’s why I urge you do your own experiments and draw your own conclusions on what ultimately benefits you. Remember that controlling nofap urges is not an easy things but it’s surely good to stop your addiction.
Good luck with your nofap journey and see you next time.